Check in with
each other

Most couples know what they mean to do, but life gets in the way. Kindred is a weekly check-in that turns what you talk about into commitments you actually come back to.

Kindred is coming to iPhone.

The weekly rhythm

Four steps you do together, then the week between.

01

Start together

One of you opens Kindred, and the other gets a notification. You both hold a button at the same moment, and the check-in begins. The whole thing takes about fifteen to twenty minutes.

02

Answer on your own

You each answer the same questions on your own screen: ratings and short reflections about your week, your connection, and what's ahead. Neither of you sees the other's answers until you've both finished.

03

Reveal at the same time

Answers appear side by side, at the same moment, with no editing after the fact. Where your ratings differ by a lot, Kindred shows it.

04

Decide together

After the reveal, you decide together: what to do this week, what to keep doing, what to let go of. Tasks for one-off things, habits for what you want to keep up. The conversation has somewhere to go, and Kindred brings it back next week.

05

The week between

A check-in is twenty minutes; the week is the rest. That's where Kindred actually lives: the commitments you've made, the things that come up, the record of how it's been going.

Why the check-in matters

You both turn talk into a plan.

Each check-in ends with concrete commitments: tasks for the week, habits to keep going. The next one comes back to them before setting new ones, so what you agreed on doesn't quietly slip.

Tasks 3 open
  • Plan dinner with the Hendersons
  • Book the dentist appointment
  • Pick a weekend in June
Habits 2 active
  • Phone-free dinners, twice a week
  • Walk together on Sundays

What you'll talk about

Every check-in moves through four themes: wellness, connection, reflection, and what's ahead. Some questions come back every week so you can see how things shift, and others rotate in over time. Six of the twenty-two are below.

  1. Wellness

    How much did outside stress affect how you showed up as a partner?

  2. Wellness

    What's weighing on you that your partner might not know about?

  3. Connection

    How much did you feel like a team?

  4. Connection

    What's one specific thing your partner did this week that you appreciated?

  5. Reflection

    Is there anything that felt unresolved or needs attention between you?

  6. Forward

    What's one thing you need from your partner in the week ahead?

Twenty-two questions in total across the four themes. A typical check-in covers about thirteen, and the rest rotate in over time.

Wondering what it actually involves?

The time

Fifteen to twenty minutes, once a week, both at the same time. There's a five-day cooldown after each check-in, so it never asks for more than that.

The shape of it

You answer on your own screen. Your answers are saved as you go, and only revealed once you've both finished. After that, neither of you can edit them.

What's not in it

No scoring, no advice, no notifications pestering you to come back. Kindred shows you what each of you said and lets you take it from there.

Before launch

Get in early.

Kindred is in the last stretch before launch. Join the waitlist and you'll hear the moment it's ready for you and your partner. A limited number of couples will be invited to try it early and help shape it, with lifetime access in return for their feedback.

Common questions

A couples check-in is a recurring conversation where both partners reflect on the same questions (how you're feeling, what's going well, what needs attention) and then decide together what to do about it. Kindred turns this into a weekly ritual: independent answers, a simultaneous reveal, and commitments you both make together. Read more in the guide to weekly couples check-ins.
About fifteen to twenty minutes. You answer questions on your own screen, go through the reveal together, review your existing commitments, and make new ones.
Yes. Kindred requires both partners. One person creates the couple and shares an invite code. The other joins with that code. Both need Kindred installed on an iPhone.
Kindred is launching on iPhone first, and there's no Android version yet.
Yes, as long as you're both free at the same time. You each answer on your own phone, and the hold-to-start and the reveal happen at the same moment wherever you both are. If you're apart, keep a call going so you can talk it through together.
No. Kindred doesn't give advice, interpret your answers, or make therapeutic claims. It's a structure tool: it gives you a format for the conversation and helps you follow through on what you decide. Therapy is a different kind of work, and the two sit comfortably side by side: Kindred keeps the weekly rhythm going, and a professional is the right person for the heavier things.
Kindred is launching on iPhone soon. Join the waitlist and you'll hear the moment it's ready. A limited number of couples will also be invited to try it early, with lifetime access in return for their feedback.
Questions about personal wellness, your connection as a couple, reflections on the week, and what's ahead. There are twenty-two questions across four themed batches, and a typical check-in covers about thirteen. Questions rotate each week so it stays fresh. A mix of one-to-five ratings and open-ended text, with no quizzes and no right answers. See the full list of 30 check-in questions for couples.
Once a week. After you finish a check-in, there's a five-day cooldown before you can start the next one. This is intentional: the time between check-ins is when you act on your commitments.
No. You each answer independently. Answers are only revealed when you've both finished, and neither of you can edit them after the reveal.

From the journal

Reading on weekly check-ins

A few practical pieces on the habit, the questions worth asking, and how Kindred compares to the other couples apps out there.

Check in with each other

A weekly rhythm for the conversations you keep meaning to have, with commitments that come back next week.

Kindred is coming to iPhone.

Kindred isn't therapy, and it doesn't try to be. If you're working with a therapist, it sits alongside that, not in place of it.