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Start together
When you're both ready, you each press and hold on your own screen at the same moment, and the check-in begins.
Check in with
each other
Kindred is a weekly check-in built around follow-through. You answer apart, reveal at the same moment, and finish with commitments that come back next week. The point of a good conversation is what comes after it.
The weekly rhythm
Four steps you do together, then a week to do what you said.
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Answer on your own
You each answer the same questions on your own screen: ratings and short reflections about your week, your connection, and what's ahead. What you write stays on your screen until you've both finished.
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Reveal at the same time
Answers appear side by side, at the same moment, with no editing after the fact. Kindred shows where your ratings landed far apart.
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Decide together
After the reveal, you decide together: what to do this week, what to keep doing, what to let go of. One-off things become tasks and ongoing ones become habits. The conversation has somewhere to go, and Kindred brings it back next week.
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Between check-ins
You check in once a week, and the week between is where it lands: you act on the commitments you made, jot down what comes up, and keep a record of how it's been going.
Why the check-in matters
It ends with a plan, not just a good talk.
The plan is just a short list: tasks for the week, habits to keep up. The next check-in brings them back before you make new ones, so each week starts from what you already agreed.
- Book our anniversary dinner
- Finally frame the trip photos
- Plan a weekend getaway in June
- Phone free dinners
- Go for a walk together once a week
What you'll talk about
Every check-in moves through four themes: wellness, connection, reflection, and what's ahead. Some questions come back every week so you can see how things shift, and others rotate in over time. Here are a few you'll see.
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How much did outside stress affect how you showed up as a partner?
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What's weighing on you that your partner might not know about?
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How much did you feel like a team?
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What's one specific thing your partner did this week that you appreciated?
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Is there anything that felt unresolved or needs attention between you?
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What's one thing you need from your partner in the week ahead?
Twenty-two questions in total across the four themes. A typical check-in covers about thirteen, and the rest rotate in over time.
Wondering what it involves?
The time
Around twenty minutes, once a week, both at the same time. There's a five-day cooldown after each check-in, so it never asks for more than that: no daily prompts between check-ins, and no penalty if a week slips.
The shape of it
You work through it a section at a time, each answered on your own screen. When you've both finished a section, the answers appear side by side to talk through, and nothing can be edited after that.
What you get
You see each other's answers, exactly as written. Kindred doesn't score you, hand out advice, or tell you what it all means, so you take it from there.
Out now
Start this week.
Kindred is free to download on the App Store for iPhone, and a short demo lets you see how a check-in works before you subscribe. One subscription covers you both, at $19.99 a year or $2.99 a month, and whoever joins with an invite code is never asked to pay.
Common questions
A couples check-in is a recurring conversation where both partners reflect on the same questions (how you're feeling, what's going well, what needs attention) and then decide together what to do about it. Kindred turns this into a weekly ritual: independent answers, a simultaneous reveal, and commitments you both make together. Read more in the guide to weekly couples check-ins.
Most couples apps are daily: a question or prompt every day, with content to browse in between. Kindred is one check-in a week, around twenty minutes, done together. One subscription covers both partners, and the partner who joins with an invite code is never asked to pay. Commitments you agree come back at the next check-in, and your answers are shown exactly as written: no scores, no advice, no AI interpreting them. See how it compares with the other couples apps.
Around twenty minutes. You answer questions on your own screen, go through the reveal together, review your existing commitments, and make new ones.
Yes. Kindred requires both partners. One person creates the couple and shares an invite code. The other joins with that code. Both need Kindred installed on an iPhone.
Kindred is built for that. One of you subscribes and shares an invite code, and whoever joins is never asked to pay. A check-in takes about twenty minutes once a week, with nothing to keep up in between and nothing that plays like a game. If the first one is useful, the second is an easier ask.
Not yet. Kindred is on iPhone for now, and Android is coming soon.
Yes, as long as you're both free at the same time. You each answer on your own phone, and the hold-to-start and the reveal happen at the same moment wherever you both are. If you're apart, keep a call going so you can talk it through together.
No. Kindred doesn't give advice, interpret your answers, or make therapeutic claims. It's a structure tool: it gives you a format for the conversation and helps you follow through on what you decide. Therapy is a different kind of work, and the two sit comfortably side by side: Kindred keeps the weekly rhythm going, and a professional is the right person for the heavier things.
Kindred is on the App Store for iPhone. One of you downloads it and subscribes, then shares an invite code, and your partner joins with that code and never sees a paywall. One subscription covers you both, at $19.99 a year or $2.99 a month.
Yes. Kindred is free to download, and you can try a short demo without creating an account: one chapter of a check-in with a scripted partner, so you can see how answering and the reveal work. It's a demonstration rather than a free trial. The full weekly check-in with your partner starts when one of you subscribes.
Questions about personal wellness, your connection as a couple, reflections on the week, and what's ahead. There are twenty-two questions across four themed batches, and a typical check-in covers about thirteen. Questions rotate each week so it stays fresh. A mix of one-to-five ratings and open-ended text, with no quizzes and no right answers. See the full list of 30 check-in questions for couples.
Weekly. It's often enough that small things get talked about while they're still small, and spaced enough that there's a week to act on what you agreed. Kindred is built around that rhythm: after you finish a check-in, the next one opens five days later.
No. You each answer independently. Answers are only revealed when you've both finished, and neither of you can edit them after the reveal.
Your answers, review comments, and commitments are shared with your partner, but only after you've both submitted: until then, what you write stays on your screen. Personal notes are different: they're visible only to you and never shown to your partner. Kindred stores your completed check-ins so you have a history to look back on, and it doesn't use AI to analyse or interpret any of it.
From the journal
Reading on weekly check-ins
A few practical pieces on the habit, the questions worth asking, and how Kindred compares to the other couples apps out there.
How to do a weekly couples check-in
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30 weekly check-in questions for couples
Honest, themed prompts you can pick from, across connection, friction, intimacy, and goals.
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Check in with each other
A weekly rhythm that turns talk into commitments, so the things you agree on actually happen.